3 Top Secrets of Super Stars

INTRODUCTION

Being good or bad is not necessarily in what we do, but in who we are. Your nature determines you actions. While your actions define your personality, your nature defines your character. Personality can be faked; character cannot.

To be a Super Star is to be a Christ-like example of happiness and success. To be truly happy and successful in life, your personality and character must be in harmony. This harmony of personality and character is what is referred to as integrity. Therefore, Integrity is when your thoughts, intentions, words and actions are in harmony with God’s Principles and Purposes.

Integrity is based on the awareness, understanding and living in the consciousness of three (3) key things every moment of your life:

1.       Your Fountain

2.       Your Function

3.       Your Focus

YOUR FOUNTAIN

This is your source. This is where you derive and draw your meaning, your very existence from. A tree-soil relationship gives a good picture of this. The soil supports the tree; and the soil remains whether or not the tree is planted in it. The tree gets its nourishment from the soil; therefore, the quality of the soil determines the quality of the tree. The deeper the tree penetrates the soil, the stronger the tree, and the longer it grows. However, the tree can get nothing from the soil unless it is planted.

-          Who is your source of inspiration?

-          Where do you get your energy from?

-          How do you get renewed when you are down and dry?

-          How do you regain your strength when you are wounded and weak?

-          From where do you derive meaning for living?

He who lacks inspiration is set up for frustration.

What to do with your Fountain

i.                     Spend time with your fountain

ii.                   Trust your fountain

iii.                  Tell others about your fountain

The Significance of your Fountain

i.                     Inspiration

            Your source is to you energy as oxygen is to all life.  Traversing through life daily is just enough to cause you heartbreaks and breakdowns. But being in tune with your source ensures that you are always spirited, spurred and sane.

ii.                   Ideas

            Your fountain imbues you with ideas that are beyond you. When you keep in touch with your source and focused on your purpose, you will tap into a realm of illumination that ordinarily you never would have believed you have the capacity to birth. 

iii.                  Intervention

            Many issues of life are generally without the physical realm of existence. To rely on the physical alone is to set up yourself for failure and frustration. Your source comes in handy to offer you help. And by living in harmony with set laws, makes your external conditions sync with your thoughts.

iv.                 Importunity

            Your relationship with your source also gives you the energy and strength to persist and persevere as you navigate through the sea of life, despite all storms. With your source,

a.       You have an encouragement to hold on

b.      You'd have an assurance that all will be well

c.       You'd have an unusual Peace of mind

v.                   Invincibility

            Your source gives you not just grace to persist but power to forge through. As you understand and lay hold of this power,

a.       You develop courage

b.      You gain coverage

c.       You take charge

d.      You fuel your passion

e.      You become indispensable

vi.                 Implication

            Your source determines where and how you end your life. Every religion teaches that there is an afterlife. How you spend your afterlife - or bluntly put, your eternity - is all a function of  whom or what you make your source. I will love to offer you the One and Only True Living God - The Creator of the Heavens and Earth.

vii.                Importance

            As you relate with your source, each of your roles in life begin to unfold to you as you grow through life. Your relationship with your source will also determine the quality and extent of your understanding and fulfilling your specific roles in life. How you live in relation with your roles is largely dependent on the effectiveness of your relationship with your source. 

            Below are some of your relationships and roles in life:

RELATIONSHIP	ROLE
Spouse	Husband/Wife
Children	Father/Mother
Parents	Son/Daughter
Siblings	Brother/Sister
Employer	Employee
Subordinates	Boss
Equals	Colleagues
Church/Charity organization	Brethren
Source/Fountain	Son/Daughter
World	---Figure this out---

YOUR FUNCTION

Your function, as defined here, is your unique role and distinctive purpose to the world. It is the unique problem you are solving for humanity and that gives you the greatest fulfillment as a person. At this point, too many people miss the mark. When we lose sight of or are ignorant of our function, we become conditioned and controlled by events, environment and expectations of others. Life becomes full of struggles and sweats. We lose the joy of work, the sense of meaning, and the infinite store of power that becomes realized and released when we focus all of our resources on a major definite purpose.

Truths about your Function

     When you  realize your function, you'd have

i.                     Inward Peace

ii.                   A sense of fulfillment

iii.                  A willingness to sacrifice

Leading Questions to Discover your Unique Function

a.       What issues, problems or needs around you touches you most?

b.      What do you do that gives you so much sense of fulfillment?

c.       What meaningful activity do you often lose track of time doing?

d.      Who are your role models?

e.      If money were not an issue, what one thing would you commit your entire life to?

f.        What is your deepest and innermost desire?

g.       What are your unique gifts, skills or talents?

h.      What do those closest to you say about your uniqueness, personality and character?

i.         What do you sense in your conscience or spirit that you are to be?

YOUR FOCUS

This is your goal. This is what you are out to achieve. Your function defines who you are to be, your focus determines what you are to do. It is useless focusing your resources in achieving what you don’t intend to be. Do not pretend to be what you don’t intend to be.

What is a goal?

-          It is something worthwhile you desire to achieve.

-          It is a great status you yearn to attain.

-          It is a price possession to crave to acquire.

-          It is an enviable end you seek to arrive.

Benefits of Goals

a.       It helps you to clarify exactly what you want amongst many alternatives

b.      It helps you to develop your willpower

c.       It helps you to focus all your resources only on those things that are important to you

d.      It constrains you to set conducts and standards for yourself and abide them

e.      It helps you to keep score of your progress

f.        It helps you to develop a heart of gratitude

g.       It infuses you with a sense of confidence and competence

How to Set a Goal

1.       Be Selective

·         Set goals that are in line with your functions.

2.       Be Sensitive

·         Your goals should not contradict sound principles and moral values.

3.       Be Specific

·         Set clear and concise goals

4.       Be Strategic

·         Set goals that you can measure. Give yourself Performance Indicators.

5.       Be Sensible

·         Set goals that are both attainable and realistic.

6.       Be Sequential

·         Set goals that can be broken down into bits.

7.       Be Spiritual

·         Set goals that would stretch your faith, and make you rely on God for help.

  

Conclusion

We are meant to be and to do all God wants us to be and do. But we must be connected to God to understand fully what He wants us to be. And be committed in taking practical steps to do what is necessary of us. To be continually relevant, you must never, never disconnect from your source.

Your Connection Determines Your Contribution.

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Ayo Bankole: An International Keynote Speaker, Insightful Preacher, Creative Writer, Leadership and Productivity Coach, and Corporate MC. He has spoken on several platforms - from schools, churches, business organizations to gatherings of all classes. He is the President of Barnabas International, and Principal Coach, SOAR Academy. He designs websites for leisure. He is based in Lagos, Nigeria.